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Of course its normal.. especially in a long distance relationship. I was in that situation for two years, so I know what I'm talking about here. Life is easier if you don't act on it.. but sometimes, you know, stuff happens, and then you deal with it however seems right at the time. Long distance is HARD, don't beat yourself up about occasionally being attracted to someone else - in fact I'd be worried if you weren't! It absolutely does not mean your relationship is doomed. But you do have to be honest with yourself about your motivations.

Wow - I always thought the coughing-while-cleaning-ears thing was just me! It is certainly a relief to know that other people's ear canals are mysteriously connected to their tonsils.
Also, if someone tickles my neck, my kidneys itch (I'm dead serious. I can't explain it any other way)
And I can blow air out of my tear ducts.
Who wants to start a circus?

Or: "no dear, it's all that chocolate you've been eating.."

Travelling; double thick dark hot chocolate; sex. In that order.

I might agree with Posionedsoul here... I recently got over what I thought was being in love with two people, but turned out to actually be in love with one of them and in lust with the other.. they're surprisingly easy to confuse.

The only way to get him to stop is to talk to him about it - you have to be brutally honest here I'm afraid... trying to ignore it will only make it worse.

Not at a concert, but I have fallen asleep at a stand-up comedy gig.. the comedian was really boring, and I was incredibly tired.

I would agree that you and your boyfriend HAVE to talk it through and get to some kind of understanding of each other's point of view.
I must admit I am somehat stumped by your boyfriend's "code of honour" that won't allow him to ditch the guy as a friend even though he knows something truly awful about him. I would also have to question the fact that his "code of honour" prevents him from getting out of a friendship that, as you say, is "poisoning" you, and adversely affecting your relationship. I'm not saying that he necessarily has to choose between you and his friend, but I think he needs to be aware of the fact that the situation is causing you pain. If he cares about you, he will want to find a way to remedy that. I don't know what that way is, but the first step is definitely for you and your boyfriend to talk things through as honestly and thoroughly as you can.
I wish you luck - it must be horrible situation to be in. I hope things work out sooner rather than later.

I have no idea why you feel guilty. It just sounds like a weird f*d up situation to me. I wouldn't worry about it unduly, if i were you.

Hard to say: I've been travelling for the last 6 months, and seem to have succumbed to the theory that dirty clothes left in a backpack for a few days mysteriously emerge clean... :)

Are you depressed, maybe?

I've had attacks of fear + panic but weirdly enough only when I'm asleep. So maybe that's something else altogether, I'm not really sure. Generally what happens is I wake up with an overwhelming sense of dread - as in, I'm about to die, kind of dread - and although I can open my eyes and look around, my body is paralysed and I either can't breathe at all, or only with difficulty, and speaking or shouting is impossible. It also sometimes feels like someone is pressing down on my chest or grabbing me around the throat. In worst case scenarios there are auditory and visual hallucinations, as well, like footsteps or a shadowy figure standing next to the bed. Don't know if that qualifies as a "panic attack" per se, but it's definitely not much fun.

Answer to first question: No! Absolutely not. We'd probably kill each other long before then. Second question, yes, I can... I guess that's what makes it all so irrational and silly...

if it's a friendship that meant something to you, maybe you should ask her.

I couldn't care less about proper etiquette, but I'd say, if you want them to be there, invite them. If you don't, don't. Easy...

you would be a bad friend if you pretended to be completely happy for her when you weren't.. I agree, you are trying to protect her from what is obviously a situation heading for disaster... sometimes we need friends to open our eyes to things we can't see ourselves.

Not sure how relevant this is.. but my mom looks about 10 years younger since she stopped dyeing her hair.. definitely think natural is best!

Yeah, find a tactful excuse and move out. I've lost a couple of friends who I used to be really close to, and probably still would be if we'd never made the mistake of living together... Mostly because I thought I'd just stick it out, and then we had a massive fallout right at the end of year when the strain just got too much.

must say i am rather enjoying fake life so far... maybe i can stretch this into a professional career as International Bartender. Should see me through to 65 at least...

I think that if you want to make the commitment that marriage entails, that's great. But before you do you have to know yourself really really well, and nobody does before they're at least in their 20s. If not older. I know I don't, and I'm almost 25 and have always been pretty mature for my age. God only knows what a mess up I would have made if I'd married the guy I was with when I was 16.

if i could, i would have voted for both options... but, if you have to choose, I'd say get tested - you have no guarantee that he would tell you the truth.
Also - not that I want to sound like your mother - if you get tested and the news is bad, I hope that you will tell him before he passes it on to someone else...