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yeah, i only clued in that you were a girl when you said "i'm affraid i'll seem easy".... doesn't seem like something guys would worry about.

worst case scenario, the guy thinks you are easy after the fact. what doyou have to lose? you'll stop talking, you never have to deal with him again, and you find yourself having enjoyed a good evening with him.

if he is more open-minded then that, and less judgemental, he would make a good friend, and possibly good partener. so it could be a good way to gauge his personality.

either way, there doesn't seem like there is much to lose.

personally, i have a rough time with booty calling. its fun, but i feel a little shaky with the whole sex thing outside the confines of a relationship. if i mess up, there is less to fall back on. given that i feel this way when sleeping with a friend, i can't imagine the confidence issues that would come up if i tried sleeping with someone i just met. its not a moral thing, or a self-image thing. rather, its a confidence thing.

although maybe not for the same reasons, i know many guys are all talk, and no walk when it comes to casual sex. from what my friends tell me, many back off when things start to get serious... so you might just be dealing with a flirty guy who isn't really willing to have sex with you at all.

last point is that its harder to play it safe (asking about STD's etc.) when sleeping with someone you haven't developped communication habits with. especially if its supposed to be something spontaneous and sexy, it can be hard to whip out the big questions. so there might be health issues related to a one night stand

sorry about the long post, i had fun writing it :)

LOL! that's even worse!

different aspect of the question: i personally believe that 'the first time' is not all that important in the first place. if your with someone or something you are having a good time with, having him/it in any part ofyou won't make the first time with 'the one' any less special

sounds like its a go, if you're both thinking about each other. but i would be careful about starting something and it ending the same way it did the first time. i would talk out any issues that caused the first break up and i would make sure that it is no longer a problem.

i was so excited about commenting on this question! i like grammar! but there is really nothing left to be said :( maybe next time.

after checking out the volver website, i know realize how "if you don't mind spanish and subtiltes" in my last message was a retarded thing to add.

regardless of which movie, it might be a good idea to get a babysitter and head out for an evening. pan's labyrinth was good, if you don't mind spanish, subtitles and a bit of violence, also if 'venus' is playing anywhere near you, it would be worth checking out. non movie alternatives are also fun, like rock climbing or paint-balling.

nice dissection of the question, johnny, that really clarifies

i had a friend who once prided herself on the high-volume capacity of her bladder... i guess she's probably feeling the effects of aging, huh?

I agree with K chason, but in addition, you should post the nude picture of her on the internet. If she's been a REALLY bad roomate... sorry, flatmate, then you can photoshop the pic a bit to make it extra embarassing.

ditto. i wouldn't move to europe before talking about how he feels.

to volopone,
dressing up in a way that expresses who i am is something i enjoy doing very much. i don't do it often, but when i do its fun. whenever i do try to express myself through what i wear, though, there is a voice at the back of my head saying something like "you know who you are, people who are genuinely interested in who you are will look past your clothes anyways, so why resort to material means to express who you are?" by material, i don't mean dressing expensively, i mean giving people visual cues as to who you are, and encouraging people to look for visual cues to find out more about you.

to JohnyApocalypse,
first, i'm sorry about any impression of 'looking down' to other ppl. ideas i think must be criticized to see if they hold up. I'm sorry if in my criticism of the average idea, i gave the impression of judging the average person. although ideas will never change, people, through thought, are able to abandon a bad one for a better one. So respecting everyone (not 'looking down') is something i hold close to my heart, despite wanting to criticize the idea. likewise, i like to be respected, to have my ideas criticized, and to have the criticizer's trust that as a respectable person, i will be able to abandon questionable ideas for better ones.

second, i'm not anti-economy. i'm just a little skeptical about trying to express something as profound as personality through material means. (material here means the same as above). the idea that i am criticiszing is the one where a personality can be summed up based on what a person's body is covered with.

Third, its true that im not a true ascetic, but that's only because i am responsive to the practical consequences of wearing something that people enjoy seeing. that's not how i want to communicate who i am though, i feel like i'm pimping myself out. (so the original question would be, is that feeling legitimate, or am i just being inflexible?)

finally, though a little off topic, it's true that the clothes i've been wearing for the last year or so have mostly been bought at a second hand store. i don't think Aldo needs my money all that much. I'm starting also to look for clothes at socially responsible stores (organic textiles, fair wages for workers, etc.). i know it doesn't make a huge difference, but i think its possible to be socially responsible and still enjoy the benefits of the capitalist system we have in place now. So i'm happy earning money, and spending it, but you can still moderate 'materialism' (in the money sense of the word) without resorting to corrupt communist regimes, or an empoverished world economy.

i'm assuming if someone in biological sciences wrote a crappy answer you would laugh. it shouldn't be any different for students in other faculties. if you write down a stupid answer, its your own fault, regardless of what your major is.