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- in Losing Virginity Using Dildo, Rou says:
different aspect of the question: i personally believe that 'the first time' is not all that important in the first place. if your with someone or something you are having a good time with, having him/it in any part ofyou won't make the first time with 'the one' any less special
Mar 02, 2007 02:30 PM - in Click this 1., Rou says:
sounds like its a go, if you're both thinking about each other. but i would be careful about starting something and it ending the same way it did the first time. i would talk out any issues that caused the first break up and i would make sure that it is no longer a problem.
Feb 25, 2007 10:43 PM - in Turn or Turns?, Rou says:
i was so excited about commenting on this question! i like grammar! but there is really nothing left to be said :( maybe next time.
Feb 25, 2007 08:24 PM - (show all)
yeah, i only clued in that you were a girl when you said "i'm affraid i'll seem easy".... doesn't seem like something guys would worry about.
worst case scenario, the guy thinks you are easy after the fact. what doyou have to lose? you'll stop talking, you never have to deal with him again, and you find yourself having enjoyed a good evening with him.
if he is more open-minded then that, and less judgemental, he would make a good friend, and possibly good partener. so it could be a good way to gauge his personality.
either way, there doesn't seem like there is much to lose.
personally, i have a rough time with booty calling. its fun, but i feel a little shaky with the whole sex thing outside the confines of a relationship. if i mess up, there is less to fall back on. given that i feel this way when sleeping with a friend, i can't imagine the confidence issues that would come up if i tried sleeping with someone i just met. its not a moral thing, or a self-image thing. rather, its a confidence thing.
although maybe not for the same reasons, i know many guys are all talk, and no walk when it comes to casual sex. from what my friends tell me, many back off when things start to get serious... so you might just be dealing with a flirty guy who isn't really willing to have sex with you at all.
last point is that its harder to play it safe (asking about STD's etc.) when sleeping with someone you haven't developped communication habits with. especially if its supposed to be something spontaneous and sexy, it can be hard to whip out the big questions. so there might be health issues related to a one night stand
sorry about the long post, i had fun writing it :)