re: diner(o) dilemma by KChason

September 09, 2006 10:55 AM

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dear internet,

In days past, my boyfriend and I alternated paying for our Friday night restaurant outings. Recently, though, I decided to learn how to cook, so I've been making a fairly nice dinner for us every Sunday. Since I started this, I've let my boyfriend pay for most of our restaurant bills. He typically insists on paying, but if I insist a little more he lets me pay.

Do you think this is a fair system (him paying for most of the restaurant bills, me making dinner every week), or should I pay for dinner more often? I'm feeling guilty today, since we went out to a more expensive restaurant than usual this week (my suggestion)

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Sounds fair, since you are putting time and money into making dinner (33 votes)
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Making dinner is your choice and your hobby, you should pay for your fair share (7 votes)
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other (please comment) (5 votes)
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  • FluffyBullet says:

    I think you should pay if you go to a really expensive resturant, otherwise it seems like a fair system.

    Sep 09, 2006 11:32 AM
  • alex says:

    So one of you is showing his worth as a provider, and the other is demonstrating domestic skills. Hmmm....

    Sep 09, 2006 01:42 PM
  • Magpie says:

    I agree with Fluffy. Plus, you can always do stuff like pay for the appetizer/drinks, take care of the tip, etc, instead of splitting the check or paying for the whole thing (that goes for you both).

    Sep 09, 2006 03:21 PM
  • KChason says:

    Yeah, I think you and Fluffy are right. I should have paid for at least part of last night's dinner. And we do share paying for movies, concerts, etc.
    Alex, yes, I am becoming quite the homemaker , what with my spotless house, sewing skills, and adoration of small children. If only my family could get the money for my dowry together (sniff!)

    Sep 09, 2006 05:57 PM
  • David says:

    I guess I'm kind of old fashioned, but when my wife and I were dating, I always paid. It seemed fair enough to me.

    Sep 10, 2006 01:46 PM
  • inafish says:

    I guess it also depends on your financial situation. When my husband and I were both still at uni, we usually split or alternated, but since he now has a pretty good job and earns ok and I don't, we sort of handle things the same you do: I cook, he pays.

    Sep 11, 2006 04:49 AM
  • taragl says:

    When you make an offer to pay, you're saying to your boyfriend, "I'm offering to keep up my share of the financial responsibility in this relationship." Continue to offer when you feel it's appropriate, insist occasionally, but don't feel that finances in a relationship have to be a tit-for-tat thing. It might not equal out to the dollar, but the point is that you're willing to contribute.

    Sep 11, 2006 10:55 AM
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