This is the kind of question that makes me think, "What would Cary Tennis say?" and only then do I start typing.
I think Cary would tell you that if you think it's love, you shouldn't let it go without a fight. People make long distance relationships work all the time. If it doesn't work, maybe it wasn't the distance that killed it.
Give it a try and see what happens, if it fails, she'll at least know you tried, and I guess that's better than giving up too soon when this could be something awesome. Unfortunately it is going to suck.
Since you had been seeing her prior to splitting it does make it a different situation than question #453, but not that different. Actually you will find the long-distance much, much harder since you are already accustomed to being close together. It will make it that much more difficult to stay together when you are apart. Since you are going off to college I am guessing you are still young and you will meet a hell of a lot of attractive, interesting, smart, and funny people during your studies. Honestly, you should have the opportunity to date other people while you are young and in college, which is one of the best times to do so. Unless you know with a very, very high certainty that you and your girlfriend will be close again (as in distance) and have lives heading in the same direction after college is through then it may not be a wise choice to stay together.
I may be a cynic because I had a high school relationship that ended wretchedly after I left for college. It's incredibly hard to keep up the love from high school and even harder not to become jealous.
I'd say keep an open mind, but also don't ignore the fact that you are bothing going to start new adventures and meet new people. College inspires changes in people that you can never expect.
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This is the kind of question that makes me think, "What would Cary Tennis say?" and only then do I start typing.
I think Cary would tell you that if you think it's love, you shouldn't let it go without a fight. People make long distance relationships work all the time. If it doesn't work, maybe it wasn't the distance that killed it.
Give it a try and see what happens, if it fails, she'll at least know you tried, and I guess that's better than giving up too soon when this could be something awesome. Unfortunately it is going to suck.
this is kind of a different situation than 453, since you already were seeing her, keep that in mind when comparing
Since you had been seeing her prior to splitting it does make it a different situation than question #453, but not that different. Actually you will find the long-distance much, much harder since you are already accustomed to being close together. It will make it that much more difficult to stay together when you are apart. Since you are going off to college I am guessing you are still young and you will meet a hell of a lot of attractive, interesting, smart, and funny people during your studies. Honestly, you should have the opportunity to date other people while you are young and in college, which is one of the best times to do so. Unless you know with a very, very high certainty that you and your girlfriend will be close again (as in distance) and have lives heading in the same direction after college is through then it may not be a wise choice to stay together.
I may be a cynic because I had a high school relationship that ended wretchedly after I left for college. It's incredibly hard to keep up the love from high school and even harder not to become jealous.
I'd say keep an open mind, but also don't ignore the fact that you are bothing going to start new adventures and meet new people. College inspires changes in people that you can never expect.
Good luck