dear internet,
okay so i really really like this new boy and we've been friends for a while now ..we liked eachother last summer but were too afraid to say anything and then in the beginning of the school year we hooked up, as in kissed ..we hooked up twice and it wasn't what we thought ..we ended up telling eachother we didn't like eachother at all and then after that it was like it used to be, just best friends ..he's been there for me with everything and knows what i've been through ..this past month we starting to like eachother and a while ago we decided to be friends with benefits but never got down to it till this weekend ..before we hooked up though he would tell my best friend in school that he was really starting to like me ..this weekend we hooked up and i don't know why but i got so attached and now i really like him ..his two best friends are girls and they are really reallly over protective of him ..he would kinda ignore me around them and iwas starting to get mad ..sunday i said something to him and we ended up fighting and he said that he just wanted to be friends and i asked him why he would tell my best friend he liked me when he didnt and he said that he thought he liked me because some days he did and others he didnt ..i told him excatly how i felt ..that i fell for him and that i thought he wasn't going to hurt me ..it was really akward but tuesday i ended up texting him in school to be the bigger person and just stop fighting and end everything ..i pretend like i don't have feelings but i fell for him hard and now i don't know what to do because he wants to be friends and i want to be more ..what can i do to get him to like me again ? ..comments are nicer than votes please..
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You can't make someone like you, dear. It hurts and it sucks but if he doesn't feel what you do, there's not a thing in the world you can do to change that. Even if he decides in the future that he thinks he likes you again, why would you put yourself through this again. He sounds very immature and indecisive, and if his best friends don't like you, that plays a powerful part in his behavior. Let him go and move on.
seconded...
Well think about it; what if the situation were reversed? It's not always possible to be sure of one's feelings so I would believe him when he says he feels one way one day and another the next. And it doesn't sound like he's trying to be hurtful. I would be patient and appreciate the fact that he wants your friendship. Loving someone and wanting them to be happy often feels better than being an object of desire.
That being said, don't get too caught up in this one aspect of your life!
As time goes on I think you'll find that you learn to understand your own feelings better and faster and so will your peers, which is nice. You've already learned that physical contact can affect your emotions much more than you'd planned.
dont do anything you wouldnt normally do. and dont dont DONT do the silly thing of flirting with another guy or something because jealousy just starts fights.
move on if you can. dont focus on it, like sheepofages said. if he wants to be immature, let him.
Ignore him until you forget him.