re: career envy vs love by anonymous questioner

June 20, 2007 11:38 AM

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dear internet,

say you are in the same department, and company, as your serious boyfriend, who also by the way treats you like gold. say your bf is meteroically good at what you both do -- to the extent that the CEO knows him by name and invites him to dinners, and he can do no wrong. say you are also good at your job, but nowhere near such heights. say that with your current ho-hum attitude to working (tired of it), you're not likely to drive yourself on to achieve a higher level in a hurry. but also, while you're happy for your un-arrogant, nice bf, you also can't help feel a twinge of resentment and envy.

what would you do?

results 23 votes

put your back into it at work -- though there's no hope of ever coming close to matching up (6 votes)
 26%
find something else to do (no idea what tho) so that you don't have to compete (11 votes)
 48%
not change anything about the situation and get more and more discouraged (0 votes)
 0%
give up working and move back in with daddy and mommy (1 vote)
 4%
something else (comment)? (5 votes)
 22%
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  • maria says:

    I think it's natural that you feel this way, and if you feel you can't compete - especially if he's adorable, as you say -, then maybe you should try talking about it with him, for one, and have him help you with whatever it is that he does so masterfully. This may or may not take you to the level he has, but I think it may help you see him more like a partner in it?

    Or maybe I am totally wrong. I just figure that it's healthier if it's out there.

    Jun 20, 2007 11:45 AM
  • alex says:

    If he's that good, marry him, and, in time, give up work and have babies and wait for him to be CEO.

    For now, don't envy him. Success at work isn't the only measure of your worth. If he treats you like gold, he's probably right.

    Jun 20, 2007 11:59 AM
  • laner says:

    im with johnny in the first bit of what he said... you are envious but you KNOW that you arent even giving it your all... and it isnt even motivating you to try harder, so it is just eating away at you.

    you can either bust your butt, finding something you DO love about your job, using him and others as mentors, etc, or you can find something else to do that you do love that you can excel at.

    Jun 21, 2007 12:59 AM
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