re: dysfunctional soulmate by lilsis

March 01, 2007 07:03 PM

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dear internet,

there's a boy who i love very much. and he loves me. and if i believe in soulmates, i believe he's mine. he has his issues and i have mine... and they make it almost impossible for us to be together. but we take care of each other as best we can, and i know we're both waiting for life to shift and our situations to improve... but in the meantime.. neither of us really know how to operate.

now there are other boys, who i like very much, who make me warm and fuzzy... and everyone tells me that these boys would be good for me, if i could let HIM go. but i don't think i want to.. for fear i'd never find him again. and i'm not sure giving in to "warm and fuzzy" is fair to these boys because HE still has my heart (even if he doesn't know how to hold it properly yet).

now what?

results 35 votes

warm and fuzzy is ok. just be honest with the new boys about where your heart is. (7 votes)
 20%
let HIM go. you're young and hot and if it's meant to be... he'll come back. (13 votes)
 37%
keep trying to make things work with HIM. no matter what.. love will be enough. (4 votes)
 11%
stop worrying about boys. you probably have a lot of other things to worry about. it'll fall in to place eventually. (11 votes)
 31%
you clearly have too much baggage. give up on life. (0 votes)
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  • fiercenailbunny says:

    My mother always told me, if you love someone let them go. If they come back to you, they're yours, if not, it was never meant to be.

    or was it if you love someone let them go. If they come back to you, they're yours, if not hunt them down and kill them?

    Either way, if you hold on to him too tightly you'll crush both him and yourself. I know it might be hard and it might seem like you're giving up, but really it might be better for both of you.

    Mar 01, 2007 08:47 PM
  • appleblossombeck says:

    Alright, I say keep trying, but don't smother yourself or him. But mostly I say that not because I think it's the best advice, but because I let my him go years ago and haven't seen him since--nobody's fault, I moved. Now, I'm blissfully married and not going anywhere, but I still think about HIM everyday almost, and would give most things to see him again, because even though our romance was a bust, our friendship could outburn the stars. So bear that in mind: even if the romance doesn't work, the love might.

    Mar 02, 2007 12:39 AM
  • JaneR says:

    If he's celibate and doesn't fish around with other girls then you can fight the fight. If he's a bastard ass clown who keeps you at arms length because he wants you but not really wanting to keep you then I say hello other boys.

    But you'll hurt. Of course. And you'll mend. And you'll scab. Just don't pick on it and bleed all over again.

    Mar 02, 2007 04:11 AM
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