i would agree, you are supposed to talk to them in private first... THEN you can go public. but going public first just makes you seem insecure and petty, which is something you dont really want to do.
but them catty bitches (or... uh... whatever the male counterpart might be) need to be kept in check!
I would go for confront them if this was any other situation, but since it's work I don't think I'd advise that, if they are under you you certainly should talk to them if it is making them difficult to work with, say that they are not meeting hteir goals to make you look bad or whatever.
If the whole thing is personal, though, whether they are your underlings or not, there is little you can say without seeming insecure and weak. It's work, not personal. Cover all your bases, keep them in check, because you don't want it to have consequences in your career, but you are going to have to create some distance. If you've been promoted above them it might happen that you cannot be friends anymore. Sorry.
They're certainly not worth it - but sometimes it helps to think that they're just envious. If the problem continues for an extended period of time, though, you might want to consider confronting them - to make yourself feel better, at least.
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i would agree, you are supposed to talk to them in private first... THEN you can go public. but going public first just makes you seem insecure and petty, which is something you dont really want to do.
but them catty bitches (or... uh... whatever the male counterpart might be) need to be kept in check!
I would go for confront them if this was any other situation, but since it's work I don't think I'd advise that, if they are under you you certainly should talk to them if it is making them difficult to work with, say that they are not meeting hteir goals to make you look bad or whatever.
If the whole thing is personal, though, whether they are your underlings or not, there is little you can say without seeming insecure and weak. It's work, not personal. Cover all your bases, keep them in check, because you don't want it to have consequences in your career, but you are going to have to create some distance. If you've been promoted above them it might happen that you cannot be friends anymore. Sorry.
Also, make sure you yourself are not guilty of gossip. You may be setting a bad example.
Ignore b/c it's not worth it... but make sure you get some dirt on them, too, just to make you feel even on the inside. So mature, I know.
They're certainly not worth it - but sometimes it helps to think that they're just envious.
If the problem continues for an extended period of time, though, you might want to consider confronting them - to make yourself feel better, at least.