Me too. I mean, I'd like to meet new cool people, but...I don't know, it still creeps me out. Mostly I get messages about joining "video groups"--porn, basically.
yeah, I also don't see how people end up meeting boyfriends/girlfriends...maybe I'm too picky, but I'm not sure how much I'd like a relationship with someone I randomly found on MySpace...
I only use my MySpace to accommodate my contacts from a certain message board. Other than that, people I know in real life. I'm too scared to accept random contact request..
most messages/friends requests i get are crap. a big part is from musicians who only want you to see their profiles to listen to their music. if the message sounds idiot, i delete it without thinking, but i've got some that were interesting (i have a friend who says i'm the only person who gets interesting messages in myspace. he was really impressed by the one about joseph heller's books). when this happens, i read the profile and write back asking why exactly the person contacted me, and i decide what to do based on the answer. it worked well with 3 people, mostly because they said they liked my list of books, or the bizarre animals i study =) i only accept the friend request after some message exchange, though, so i think this kind of rule helps me to sort out things. once i also made the inicial contact and it worked well. i only wanted to compliment the songs of a really talented musician, and he was nice enough to answer. but im new to myspace... i think i have better experience with orkut, and i think friendships are easier to find in orkut because the focus there is on the communities. if you're active in a community, if you're always reading and answering the forums, people see you and you see people, and after a little time you just notice the friendship is already there. there is a huge group of people in my city who met on orkut, in the city's community, and after some time started to meet and go out together, and they're really close now.
People who send you a friend request with no prior communication is what I find stupid. I mean, I'm there, at least say hello or something.
In reality some people just seem to want to collect as many friends a possible. For what purpose, I don't know. I don't think there's a prize for the person with most friends in the world.
you know they have programs that send out the friend requests for you? my husband is a musician. he has the program. i told him its silly. i have met one person who isnt totally creepy, but thats because i thought i knew him before and it wasnt till like the fourth message that i realized he wasnt who i thought he was...
I'm more of a Facebooker, myself. MySpace is a bit...creepy. In addition to all the requests from bands, as solitaryascidian mentioned, there are apparently a LOT of young women (and I'm only assuming they are, in fact, women) who--not knowing a thing about me--would like nothing more than to "intercourse" me via webcam. Not really my thing.
Is facebook really better? I've never played with it, and I went to register the other day and it won't send me a confirmation email. If it is though, I might switch. myspace is icky.
facebook is much better laid out, has less obnoxious advertising, and although they will let everyone in now, there are still limits to whose profile you can view. There aren't nearly as many people with "video cam" advertisements - basically, it's so much better.
I have something to the effect that I won't accept friends requests without a message first emblazoned on my myspace page. Anyone who's truly interested in getting to know me will read that and follow the bouncing ball. So far, no takers for the message-first policy smiles and shrugs
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that always creeps me out when people randomly message me to be friends...
Me too. I mean, I'd like to meet new cool people, but...I don't know, it still creeps me out. Mostly I get messages about joining "video groups"--porn, basically.
yeah, I also don't see how people end up meeting boyfriends/girlfriends...maybe I'm too picky, but I'm not sure how much I'd like a relationship with someone I randomly found on MySpace...
Yep. Although, I will see people and think that they seem cool and might be a good friend, but I'm always too shy to do anything about it.
I only use my MySpace to accommodate my contacts from a certain message board. Other than that, people I know in real life. I'm too scared to accept random contact request..
most messages/friends requests i get are crap. a big part is from musicians who only want you to see their profiles to listen to their music. if the message sounds idiot, i delete it without thinking, but i've got some that were interesting (i have a friend who says i'm the only person who gets interesting messages in myspace. he was really impressed by the one about joseph heller's books). when this happens, i read the profile and write back asking why exactly the person contacted me, and i decide what to do based on the answer. it worked well with 3 people, mostly because they said they liked my list of books, or the bizarre animals i study =) i only accept the friend request after some message exchange, though, so i think this kind of rule helps me to sort out things. once i also made the inicial contact and it worked well. i only wanted to compliment the songs of a really talented musician, and he was nice enough to answer.
but im new to myspace... i think i have better experience with orkut, and i think friendships are easier to find in orkut because the focus there is on the communities. if you're active in a community, if you're always reading and answering the forums, people see you and you see people, and after a little time you just notice the friendship is already there.
there is a huge group of people in my city who met on orkut, in the city's community, and after some time started to meet and go out together, and they're really close now.
I met my wife on the message board of NeilGaiman.com, but it's a site that isn't specifically dedicated to meeting people.
People who send you a friend request with no prior communication is what I find stupid. I mean, I'm there, at least say hello or something.
In reality some people just seem to want to collect as many friends a possible. For what purpose, I don't know. I don't think there's a prize for the person with most friends in the world.
you know they have programs that send out the friend requests for you? my husband is a musician. he has the program. i told him its silly. i have met one person who isnt totally creepy, but thats because i thought i knew him before and it wasnt till like the fourth message that i realized he wasnt who i thought he was...
I'm more of a Facebooker, myself. MySpace is a bit...creepy. In addition to all the requests from bands, as solitaryascidian mentioned, there are apparently a LOT of young women (and I'm only assuming they are, in fact, women) who--not knowing a thing about me--would like nothing more than to "intercourse" me via webcam. Not really my thing.
sigh and here was i, already thinking about making the proposal, oldgregg...
my favorite myspace group was invaded by spammers this week. all topics are about girls wanting one night stands. with link to a site.
Facebook > MySpace anyway.
Is facebook really better? I've never played with it, and I went to register the other day and it won't send me a confirmation email. If it is though, I might switch. myspace is icky.
facebook is much better laid out, has less obnoxious advertising, and although they will let everyone in now, there are still limits to whose profile you can view. There aren't nearly as many people with "video cam" advertisements - basically, it's so much better.
I have something to the effect that I won't accept friends requests without a message first emblazoned on my myspace page. Anyone who's truly interested in getting to know me will read that and follow the bouncing ball. So far, no takers for the message-first policy smiles and shrugs
On facebook, definitely. Besides, on myspace rupert murdoch owns your soul...
I only use myspace to check out bands, and I don't really get that many friend requests or messages so I dunno...