dear internet, here's an article that you don't even have to read to adequately poll and discuss this question! http://www.nd.edu/~ndmag/austf96.html
If you don't want to read it, it's about shame, guilt, grace, and forgiveness. I think it's relevant to some of our more poignant questions. So rather than a traditional question, just pick the phrase that best suits how you feel about the whole subject of shame.